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[honeybee]

Hey M4M give me credit for you joining, I am trying to win a Griddle gift certificate.

[mad4martinis]

So far, it hasn't been very enjoyable Honey bee, but where do I do that for you? I will, but just don't know where to go.

[honeybee]

Thanks for the vote M4M, another vote for the Queen Bee.

[~Lady~]

I don't know why this subject has got so WAY out of hand. And I do not know why anyone would bash Mad4martinis! That's ridiculous. But I will say this much, I WAS the one who spoke up on behalf on ALL POSTERS on another forum! I WAS the one who read topics that was posted about us (and several others) No names had to be mentioned in order to get the jest of the conversation that was being portrayed in another website. I AM the one who TOOK UP FOR MY HUSBAND AND MY SON because somebody says that NO ONE WORKS when I SEE my husband bust his tail day in and day out and see my son do the same. I HAVE THAT RIGHT! AND I WILL STAND FOR THAT RIGHT! I DO NOT FOLLOW ANYONE! THAT PERSON ASKED US TO JOIN THAT SITE OVER A YEAR AGO! THAT PERSON brought her own drama to reality! And all I have to say now is....WHATS IT TO ANY OF YOU! IT WAS SETTLED AND DONE WITH BUT SOMEONE WANTS TO BRING IT UP AGAIN! WELL, GO on over to the other forum and create your OWN drama. These "fly by night" comments, Maddy are coming from just the ones we probably already know who it is and we know who is behind it! I said my say a few weeks back! Now I'm here! Using the same name; AND NOT HIDING BEHIND A FAKE ONE LIKE SOMEONE I SEE HERE DOING!

[fairydust]

NativeLady, I am sure you do know the ones who would dare create drama.. or at least one I am sure you know of.

Its a boring life when one is to lazy to get a life.. and want to show jealousy. One who is dependant of others happiness because they lack their own.. it is a sad sad world..

Maddys crime... being friends with others.. Maddys crime.. seeing FACE VALUE in others.. along with other values.. shes a good person.. I bet she could do something that the other can not do.. and that is list more friends than enemies.. burning bridges is not her forte.

[mad4martinis]

You're quite welcome Honey Bee. You deserve to win!! You have the most motivation, that's for sure!!!
Thank you Nativelady & FairyDust. It's all good. I know who it is & that's all that matters. They are the one's that have to look in the mirror at themselves and ask, "is this who I really want to be"? Obviouslly, it's too much crack in the pipe.

[honeybee]

Hey Native and Fairy, I know "not so good things" have brought you over, but would you vote for me on the Griddle vote, PLEASE?

This gift certificate has turned into a mission for me.

[honeybee]

I have been reading the post here and would like to add in some “Food for Thought” if I may. When you respond over and over, or go back and forth with negative comments, to a post by someone, who has posted something negative about you, or you think it might be about you, you just give that person power over you. If it was directed at you and you in turn respond with fury and or anger then, that person has power over you. I realize that it is human nature to defend yourself when you feel you have been slighted.

I have a similar issue on the other forum with someone else. They seem to follow me around to contradict me. I try to stay out of anything political or religious, but it doesn’t matter, that person is there to annoy me. Now, I can use the “ignore user” button and it does come in handy when I get the urge to be rude. However, I choose to ignore this person and their comments, therefore I am not feeding their “power frenzy”. I know that I am a bigger person that that and I really don’t need the stress it causes. If you allow someone or something to get under your skin so much that you have it on your mind, in your conversation or thoughts or e-mails, then that person has power over you. They post, because they know you well enough, to know what you will do. You will respond.

I always try to be a positive person and even though I don’t know the parties involved in the conflict, I try to inject humor to cool the flames of fury instead of fanning them.

If you know that someone has issues then ignoring them is the best way to handle it. They will give up and go away.

I know, I know, "if you say something about me, then I am going to say something about you or defend myself" it's hard to fight the tiger fury inside, but maybe if you post something positive then they will back off.

I try to stay positive and honest with people, (1) because I have to live here and (2) because we have a small home business, honey and soap. Posting negative things or going back and forth looks bad on me and my small business. People will tell their friends and we won't ever, ever get rid of the tons of honey we have. Plus it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside, to be nice.

Now I will be posting this elsewhere to make sure it get's read. I do hope that no one will get offended at what I have posted, becuase that is not my intention.

Also, I am not the one posting negative things just to get people over here to vote for me for the Griddle certificate.... I promise.

[mad4martinis]

You are so right Honeybee. I'm done with this boldzilla person. I've never met her, she's never been in my home, nor will she ever be. There's no way I'd be associated with a person that hates themselves so badly.
Thank you for posting that. Positive in, postive out. Negative in, negative out. I'm going for the positive, just like you. Thanks!!!

[admin]

Lord have mercy, what a storm. Its somewhat hard to tell what's going on since springflowers deleted most of her posts. Can't imagine why. I think there is some confusion here. bride thinks mad is someone else and vice versa. Do we really want to bring past vendettas from other forums here? Why don't we calm down and judge people by what they post here. And maybe it would be best if we didn't use personal names of non public figures in negative ways. Otherwise, we'll have to set up court with judge Honeybee presiding.

[honeybee]

Here come da judge! Here come da judge! Da court’s in session and here come da judge!

By the way, we will be passing the offering plate at court. Please don't make change in the offering plate when it passes.

[fairydust]

I do believe the open door to naming names, and businesses was brought into this forums.
I have read that the admin, and others are proud to have OPEN DISCUSSION.. That was open discussion on the forums here..

I can understand why websites would moderate or have rules that would disclose against the same exact thing that was brought here by this boldzilla.

The person apparently knew that they couldnt stir the pot elsewhere, so they came here to do so.. where it has been made known that they could voice.. well, a business is reason enough to defend.. and a family is a bigger reason to defend..

Admin defends the boards here.. and people defend themselves? Is that really hard to imagine why they would?

Just my opinion.. and I didnt sign on until last night because it seemed one sided to me on politics.. all the bashing of political figures and now its businesses and people..

Open minded policys can be good and can be bad.. however, I would hope there are more open minded people who read into things better than some post about another!

[~Lady~]

Alright Bee, If you Gonna Be Da Judge, I wanna be that chick who holds that thing over her mouth in the court room while the courts going on! Huh! Huh!?? Can I Can I! LOL

Admin, All will be well! I assure you that because Lord knows I am through with the drama! Some just won't let it die down long enough to completely smolter down to only ashes of the past! But I made a few "choices" today and ...I am going to be the me that I am...Just a Good Ole gal who loves life!

[admin]

Oh, I know all is well. I trust the members to do what is right. If we have a little long time fued gone cyber in our online family, then we can surely deal with it. With some tough love, understanding, and wisdom from Judge Honeybee. Just don't take out a loan from the offering plate. As for one sidedness, discussions become multi-sided when people from all points of view join in. The forum continues to grow and this is happening.

[honeybee]

Doesn't that thing look like an oxygen mask??

Is she just repeating what the judge say's? I always thought it was cool to watch them type.

OK, if you can figure out what she is doing, you can.

But don't think you can bring tater-tot with you to work when SHE get's here, cause everybody will be wanting to play with the baby and not pay attention in court.